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I can think of a couple of rad fems who fit this bill on twitter. Like you explain, when I first saw their tweets I was taken aback, but now I think it'd great 😁

Great piece, thanks for writing it.

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Thanks for reading it!

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Relatable. Niceness won't smash the patriarchy.

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I must I must increase my mean! Great article. Thanks Zara x

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Absolutely fantastic!!! That interview with the “I don’t care” has stuck with me too. Men get upset when we say they aren’t women? I don’t care. *I don’t care.* I DON’T CARE!!!

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I tweeted a link to it. Thank you for writing this article. Germaine Greer is uncompromising and forthright.

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I utterly adore this post.

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loved reading this piece!

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Well, that escalated quickly.

Melania wore the "I don't care" jacket to a concentration camp. And then admitted it these exact reasons on tape, over the phone to a friend.

That's not mean, it's fascist.

It's funny, because we're literally defending Melania from liberal misogyny on Twitter right now. We don't pick and choose: the example you chose is just a stupid one.

You're welcome to blame women for patriarchy, but perform your internalised misogyny somewhere else. I would have entertained a chance for critical thinking, but you wishing ill upon women is beneath the both of us and not worth my time.

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Thank you for posting this... I did not know this... I avoid the news because I find watching it too emotionally manipulative.... Holy sh*t...

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Thank you for writing this Zara.

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I have always been outspoken and stood my ground as a feminist, no plans to do otherwise

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This is a FABULOUS piece. I see it is from spring of 2021... don't know how I missed it but so glad to find it now. Well written, excellent points, passionate and perfect. Couldn't agree more.... they want us docile in order to control and make us easier to abuse. Well said. Thanks for putting this out there. Am sharing.

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You’re wrong. Progress is made when alliances are formed of like-minded people. That requires taking the harder route of actually building those alliances, finding compromises, and working towards a common goal. It’s harder, takes more sacrifice, and is less immediately stimulating than hating, but it works, and worked for most of the 21st century.

The setbacks we are seeing now are because you have chosen hate, thereby alienating the vast middle ground of good people. You shouldn’t be surprised that they’ve started hating you back.

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Also, can we ixnay on the fucking "make progress" meme? Do you understand what the word "progress" means? It means to move forward. Well, where are you moving forward to? Are you moving forward toward women's liberation or are you moving forward towards men's porn utopia? I think we both know the answer. Stop fetishing pRoGrEsS and start valuing women's freedom.

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YOU'RE wrong. When we have to be nice to everyone that means they are doing the exact opposite of what you are advising us to do. If I *have* to be nice to a man -- in other words, I wouldn't have wanted to be nice to him, but you're making me -- that is because he's being a shit, and he's being a shit because he's doing whatever he wants without regard to my feelings or my rights. He doesn't want a coalition with me. He wants to boss me around. Fuck that. He can find his own damn movement, he's not welcome in mine.

If you want liberation, seek LIBERATION. Not the right to pay lip service to "liberation" while appeasing our masters like your type ALWAYS fucking does.

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